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		<title>Fluency Requires Practice</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Feb 2011 07:05:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Eric Roth</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;To know and not do is to not know.&#8221; The Talmud Fluency requires practice. Our students also know that speaking English can be both satisfying and stressful. Therefore, we require speaking activities in class &#8211; and strongly suggest ways to speak more out of class. Our students want to be fluent, but they often hesitate [...]
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;To know and not do is to not know.&#8221; The Talmud</p>
<p>Fluency requires practice. Our students also know that speaking English can be both satisfying and stressful. Therefore, we require speaking activities in class &#8211; and strongly suggest ways to speak more out of class. Our students want to be fluent, but they often hesitate to practice their <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">speaking skills</a>. Many students do not want to risk making mistakes, being misunderstood, and feeling awkward. Some prefer to silently take notes, and speak as little as possible in their English classes. We have all probably faced this situation. </p>
<p>Yet, as far as I know, there is no magical shortcut to fluency except practice. Our English students must practice speaking &#8211; in pairs and in small groups &#8211; even if it feels awkward. &#8220;Practice makes perfect&#8221; goes a popular proverb. Although perfection seems like a dubious ideal, practice certainly makes progress. And our students want to make meaningful progress in their <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">speaking skills</a> and gain greater fluency. </p>
<p>That&#8217;s why creating a comfortable class atmosphere remains essential. One effective way to reduce grade anxiety or classroom stress is to clearly emphasize that some activities will focus more on fluency&#8221; and other speaking activities will focus more on &#8220;accuracy&#8221;. For instance, including one casual fluency activity per class helps students simply exchange ideas and engage in low risk, safe communication between themselves. </p>
<p>Speaking exercises can be added across the ESL curriculum. You can often drop a short communicative exercise even in acadenuc writing classes. Fluency, after all, requires practice. Casual, ungraded classroom conversations also increase student confidence and create a more lively ESL classroom.  </p>
<p>Asking students to reflect and share their experiences as an English learner can often lead to fascinating conversations and compelling essays. Here&#8217;s a favorite fluency activity called <a href="http://www.compellingconversations.com/pdf/studying_english.pdf">Learning English</a> that I&#8217;ve used with both intermediate and advanced ESL students in both oral skills and writing classes. When I taught advanced ESL at Santa Monica Community College, I often used <a href="http://www.compellingconversations.com/pdf/studying_english.pdf">Learning English</a> to introduce their first essay. Students often responded with enthusiasm. Perhaps your English students will too. </p>
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		<title>An ESL Author Looks at an ESL website with New Eyes</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 08 Jan 2011 08:37:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Eric</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Sometimes we don&#8217;t see what is in front of our eyes. Today I learned a bit more about my own website from a fellow English teacher and friendly fan. A gentleman from Tennessee called my home, thanked me for the sample conversation materials, and asked some insightful questions about the updated Compelling Conversations website. I [...]
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Sometimes we don&#8217;t see what is in front of our eyes.</p>
<p>Today I learned a bit more about my own website from a fellow English teacher and friendly fan.</p>
<p>A gentleman from Tennessee called my home, thanked me for the sample <a title="conversation materials" href="http://www.compellingconversations.com/sample-chapters.php" target="_blank">conversation materials</a>, and asked some insightful questions about the updated <a title="Compelling Conversations" href="http://www.CompellingConversations.com" target="_blank">Compelling Conversations </a>website. I appreciate his call &#8211; and his giving a practical suggestion on how to improve the site for adult educators by adding clearer language. The influx of new immigrants, mostly Spanish speaking with limited formal education, can be seen across the United States. As you might expect, many churches are providing many education and literacy programs for new immigrants in the South &#8211; often on a shoe string budget.  I&#8217;m glad that the free <a title="reproducible worksheets" href="http://www.compellingconversations.com/worksheets.php">reproducible worksheets </a>can be of some assistance.</p>
<p>Second, the gentleman&#8217;s call encouraged me to take a longer look at my own website through new eyes. Designed more for <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a> than <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English language learners</a>, the revised site does include an entire section for students. The materials, however, are probably too hard for most English students to understand since they are written for high intermediate and advanced ESL students.</p>
<p>Fortunately, there are also  rough Google translations for the <a title="Compelling Conversations" href="http://www.CompellingConversations.com"></a><a title="Compelling Conversations" href="http://www.CompellingConversations.com" target="_blank">Compelling Conversations website</a> now for speakers of  46 languages. The long list goes beyond the usual suspects (Chinese, French, German, Korean, Spanish) to cover tongues ranging  from Albanian and Arabic to Vietnamese and Yiddish! That&#8217;s sort of amazing &#8211; even if the computer translations remain imperfect and contain many errors. Consider me jealous of my computer&#8217;s language skills! Wouldn&#8217;t it be great to just know 10 words in 46 languages?</p>
<p>Perhaps in the future. For now, I&#8217;m grateful for Google translations &#8211; and dedicated <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a> who share their experiences about my small, evolving website and niche conversation textbook.  Maybe it is silly, but I still get a kick when &#8211; like today &#8211; an adult education teacher tells me about how their students enjoy the book &#8211; even when it is a bit difficult.</p>
<p>So please feel free to share your experiences, positive or negative, because we are learn from each other. As the cliche goes, &#8220;everyone is a student; everyone is a teacher.&#8221;  Today I learned quite a bit about my own website, its strengths and flaws. Have you visited the revised website yet? What worked? What could be improved? Do you have some suggestions for the next version?</p>
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		<title>Discussing the New Year And Making Resolutions to Change in English Class</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 31 Dec 2010 21:57:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Eric</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Everything becomes a little different as soon as it is spoken out loud.&#8221; Hermann Hesse (1877-1962), Nobel Prize winner for Literature Holidays and anniversaries often prompt personal reflections. As 2010 ends and a new year beckons, millions of English language learners and thousands of English teachers  reflect on their lives and make new year resolutions. [...]
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h3>&#8220;Everything becomes a little different as soon as it is spoken out loud.&#8221;</h3>
<p><strong><em>Hermann Hesse (1877-1962), Nobel Prize winner for Literature</em></strong></p>
<h3>Holidays and anniversaries often prompt personal reflections. As 2010 ends and a new year beckons, millions of English language learners and thousands of English teachers  reflect on their lives and make new year resolutions.</h3>
<h3>·         What did you find satisfying in 2010?</h3>
<h3>·         What were some magic days and memorable moments?</h3>
<h3>·         What English words will you choose to remember?</h3>
<h3>·         What English lessons would you prefer to forget?</h3>
<h3>Sometimes we look back with satisfaction on our classroom achievements, and sometimes we look back in regret.  A USA Today article proclaimed <a title="2010: The Year Technology Replaced Talking" href="http://www.usatoday.com/yourlife/parenting-family/2010-12-30-1AYEAR30_CV_N.htm" target="_blank">&#8220;2010: The Year Technology Replaced Talking</a>. Yet here we are facing 2011.. Almost everyone hopes for a happy, healthy, and more prosperous and productive new year. The challenge remains how we can move forward, and talking about change and hopes for change seems like a natural place.</h3>
<h3>Often, we openly declare our hopes and goals for the New Year with bold resolutions that require serious change in our habits. We also know that change can be hard, surprising, and sometimes liberating in our classrooms and in our personal lives.</h3>
<h3>·         What do you hope for in 2011?</h3>
<h3>·         What changes would you like to make? Why?</h3>
<h3>·         How do you plan to realize your goals in the next year?</h3>
<h3>·         How will you measure personal success in 2011?</h3>
<h3>·         How will you measure your academic success in 2011?</h3>
<h3>·         Are you ready to keep your New Year resolutions?</h3>
<h3>Given the rate of exceptional technological and social change in the 21st century, I find that discussing the topic of <a href="http://www.compellingconversations.com/change.pdf">Change</a> a perennial winner in my advanced English classes. I often open the Spring semester with this popular conversation activity in the first two weeks.  Although public opinion surveys show that only a small percentage of Americans keep their New Year resolutions to change after a month, I suspect we can increase those odds of our English students by candidly discussing our hopes and plans to change.</h3>
<h3>Feel free to use this sample <a href="http://www.compellingconversations.com/">Compelling Conversations</a> chapter on <a href="http://www.compellingconversations.com/pdf/change.pdf">Change</a> in your English class.</h3>
<p>&#8220;To modernize is to adopt and to adapt, but it is also to recreate.&#8221;</p>
<p><em>Octavio Paz, 1914-1998), Mexican writer and diplomat.</em></p>
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<h3><a href="http://www.compellingconversations.com/pdf/change.pdf">http://www.compellingconversations.com/pdf/change.pdf</a></h3>
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		<title>Dwell in Possibility: Discussing Books Enlivens ESL Classes</title>
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		<dc:creator>Eric</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Reading remains a great pleasure and a helpful guide. Literature can also enliven our ESL classrooms, and discussing our favorite books opens up new possibilities. The humanities should be for everyone - including English language learners. Let us, as Emily Dickinson advised, "dwell in possibility" and bring more literature into our English classrooms.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>&#8220;A word is dead when it is said, some say.<br />
I say it just begins to live that day.&#8221;</em><br />
Emily Dickinson</p>
<p>Cheap pleasures can sometime be the most satisfying.</p>
<p>Reading, an activity that often costs nothing, falls into that category. Reading provides many pleasures and many insights. So does talking about reading.</p>
<p>Following a December ritual, I&#8217;ve been reviewing the year and find many reasons for satisfaction. Co-writing a monthly column called &#8220;Instant Conversation Activity&#8221;  in the newspaper <a title="Easy English Times" href="http://www.easyenglishtimes.com">Easy English Times</a> makes the list for the third straight year. Each monthly newspaper column in the <a title="Easy English Times" href="http://www.easyenglishtimes.com/">Easy English Times</a>, modifies and expands a thematic chapter from  <strong><a title="Compelling Conversations" href="http://www.CompellingConversations.com" target="_blank">Compelling Conversations</a></strong>, an advanced ESL textbook,  for lower level <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English language learners</a>. The August issue, for example, talked about watching television and favorite programs; the November 2010 issue celebrated the American tradition of choosing leaders in elections. (Immigrants, refugees, new citizens, and potential citizens often appreciate voting while too many American citizens fall into apathy.) It&#8217;s an honor to have the lessons used in ESL, EL/Civics, and literacy classes.</p>
<p>In reviewing the 2010 clips, however, my favorite column this year remains  <a title="Reading Pleasures and Tastes" href="http://easyenglishtimes.com/compelling_conversations.html">“Reading Pleasures and Tastes.</a>&#8221;<br />
Reading can be a great – and overlooked – pleasure. Reading allows us to imagine life in distant lands and times – and better understand our own lives and climates. It broadens our imagination, highlights absurd situations, shows new possibilities, and can deepen our sympathy. Since urban Californian classrooms often resemble a mini-United Nations, reading provides a passport to better understand our classmates and our ever-changing world. .</p>
<p>Yet too few American adults &#8211; including adult education students – allow themselves the pleasure of reading books and newspapers in English. We can see and hear on adult school campuses how the inability to read causes real problems. We know the many studies that document the links between illiteracy, poverty, and criminal activity.  One reason might be that reading builds empathy and instills information.  Reading can also provide solace, inspiration, and perspective.  Celebrating the pleasure and power of reading to the <a title="Easy English Times column" href="http://easyenglishtimes.com/compelling_conversations.html">Easy English Times column</a> audience, including adult immigrants, GED students  and some prisoners, seems appropriate. Perhaps it could have been called &#8220;Three Cheers for Reading – Even if Life is Hard.&#8221;</p>
<p>Yet I also like the Reading Pleasures column because discussing books has created some of my most poignant classroom moments. During a decade of teaching advanced adult ESL, we often read short stories, memorized proverbs, and wrote about living in Los Angeles and Santa Monica. Many ESL students also demonstrated their passion for literature. A Polish student sought help translating romantic poems, a Mexican immigrant constantly recited lines from Cervantes, and an Iranian woman journalist discussed her fear of reading banned books – even while in the United States.. Reading matters and transcends borders.</p>
<p>Let me give another example from a global classroom with a dozen or so different best languages. Each evening we would have a &#8220;brave volunteer&#8221; give a short oral presentation at 8:30 as a closing activity.   I wanted everyone to be a volunteer, but I left the choice of presenting to students. Some students introduced their hometowns, a few  gave product reviews, and many recommended movies. Topics and styles varied.</p>
<p>One night an older Korean woman gave an eloquent, moving book review of<strong> To Kill A Mockingbird </strong>that combined personal biography and literary criticism.  Chloe, not her real name, began smiling because she had just finished rereading her favorite book in its original language – English. She joked about how long it took, but she had patience. Chloe went on to confess that she often had racist feelings like some ugly characters in the novel. &#8220;But I learned from the noble character too&#8221;. Chloe stated that living in Santa Monica and studying English she had learned to overcome racism. Her daughter was going to marry a non-Korean – something once unthinkable. Then, returning to the novel, she concluded by quoting her favorite character.  &#8220;I think there&#8217;s just one kind of folks.  Folks. &#8221; Her daughter visited our class that night, and cried. She was not alone. Powerful. Poignant. Unforgettable.</p>
<p>Reading remains a great  pleasure and a helpful guide. Literature can also enliven our ESL classrooms, and discussing our favorite books opens up new possibilities. The humanities should be for everyone &#8211; including <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English language learners</a>. Let us, as Emily Dickinson advised, &#8220;dwell in possibility&#8221; and bring more literature into our English classrooms.</p>
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		<title>Conversation Tip #4: Ask Questions and Take Turns</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 05 Sep 2009 19:18:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Eric Roth</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Asking follow up question can provide clarity and allow our conversation partners to elaborate on details. Use these simple phrases to go beyond hello and create better conversations. 

And?
So?
Where?
When?
How?
Why?
Meaning? 

Smiling and nodding your head also indicate interest and encourage your conversation partner. Yet asking follow up questions and turn taking remain key elements of a natural, satisfying conversation.  Everyone in a conversation should both be and feel included, and asking questions remains essential in both superficial and deep conversations. English teachers can gently remind their ESL students of this technique as part of fluency. 

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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Why state the obvious? Why take turns asking questions? Why ask follow up questions?</p>
<p>Common sense and social skills don&#8217;t seem to be universal. Conversation skills remain a vital soft skill that many scientists, engineers, shy people, and <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English language learners</a> struggle to master. A key technique is just asking simple questions to keep a conversation moving forward. </p>
<p>Asking follow up questions can provide clarity and allow our conversation partners to elaborate on details. <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a>, especially when reviewing fluency skills, can introduce common phrases to help ESL and EFL students improve their fluency. Use these simple phrases to go beyond hello and create better conversations. </p>
<p>And?<br />
So?<br />
Where?<br />
When?<br />
How?<br />
Why?<br />
Meaning? </p>
<p>You can also encourage your conversation partner with simple phrases.<br />
Go on!<br />
Tell me more!<br />
Sounds interesting.</p>
<p>Smiling and nodding your head also indicate interest and encourage your conversation partner. Yet asking follow up questions and turn taking remain key elements of a natural, satisfying conversation.  Everyone in a conversation should both be and feel included, and asking questions remains essential in both superficial and deep conversations. <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a> can gently remind their ESL students of this technique as part of fluency. </p>
<p>Ask more. Know more. Share more.<br />
Create <a href="http://www.CompellingConversations.com">Compelling Conversations.</a><br />
Visit<a href="http://www.CompellingConversations.com"> www.CompellingConversations.com</a> </p>
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		<title>Creating More Student-Centered Conversation Materials</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[EFL teachers continue to bring communicative techniques and direct learning methods to more and more Vietnamese students. Yet another exceptional educator working in Vietnam has also warned me that preparing for standardized testing and drill-and-kill grammar exercises remain the rule in most English classrooms. Quality EFL and ESL materials - especially for student-centered, communicative classrooms - apparently remain relatively scarce. Naturally, I will learn more during my upcoming trip to Vietnam where I will observe high school English teachers and lead a workshop on creating more student-centered conversation materials at American-Pacific University.

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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We need, it seems to me, to motivate English students more out of choice than duty &#8211; and tailor our ESL and EFL material as much as possible to our individual students. The web allows teachers to individualize instruction to an astonishing degree, but teachers must be prepare flexible, student-centered materials and lead by example. We set the standards, and students will follow their interests as they develop their reading and <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">speaking skills</a>. What does that mean?</p>
<p>Here is an example of a worksheet that I&#8217;ve used with considerable success in intermediate and advanced ESL classes.<br />
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			Talking About Your Own Hometown! </p>
<p>Student Name:<br />
Class:<br />
Teacher:<br />
School:<br />
Date:</p>
<p>Please find an article about your hometown in English that you would like to share with your classmates. Read the article, clip the article, and be prepared to talk about the article.</p>
<p>Title:<br />
Author:						Length:<br />
Publication:						Publication date:</p>
<p>What&#8217;s the main idea? </p>
<p>How many sources were quoted? </p>
<p>Where there any illustrations? What kind? </p>
<p>What did you learn in this article?</p>
<p>What was the most interesting part for you? Why?  </p>
<p>Write down 5 new vocabulary words, idioms, or expressions.<br />
	1.<br />
	2.<br />
	3.<br />
	4.<br />
	5. </p>
<p>How would you rate the article 1-10? Why? </p>
<p>Why did you choose this article?</p>
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<p>English students search the web, select an article, fill out the form, and share their articles in small groups of 3-4. Then I ask for &#8220;brave volunteers&#8221; to give us a brief presentation to the class. Although only a few students may volunteer at first, soon everyone wants to share their article and hometown stories. This simple technique, putting more emphasis on student speaking than instructor talking, helps create a lively ESL classroom. (Obviously, the activity works better in a genuine international classroom with students from many countries like in many American summer language programs.)</p>
<p>Communicative activities remain under-appreciated in many English language classrooms, especially in Asia. But seeing is believing. I&#8217;ll soon be visiting Vietnam, observing several English classrooms, and looking for examples of effective speaking exercises. What will I find? I don&#8217;t know. </p>
<p>Vietnam, the country with the fasting growing economy in the world in 2008, has embarked on a huge social development campaign. The education ministry wants to dramatically improve their current English language education programs, urging the study of English to improve trade, and mandating the study of English for high school students. Therefore, Vietnam has attracted thousands of <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a> from the United States, Australia, Canada, and the United Kingdom in recent years. &#8220;It&#8217;s a huge laboratory for teaching methods,&#8221; notes an English teacher who lives in Hanoi. </p>
<p>EFL teachers continue to bring communicative techniques and direct learning methods to more and more Vietnamese students. Yet another exceptional educator working in Vietnam has also warned me that preparing for standardized testing and drill-and-kill grammar exercises remain the rule in most English classrooms. Quality EFL and ESL materials &#8211; especially for student-centered, communicative classrooms &#8211; apparently remain relatively scarce. Naturally, I will learn more during my upcoming trip to Vietnam where I will observe teachers and lead a workshop on creating more student-centered conversation materials.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s also the type of activity that has made Compelling Conversations popular. So far, student word of mouth, popular CATESOL conference workshops, and satisfied <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a> have lead to <a href="http://www.CompellingConversations.com">Compelling Conversations</a> being used in English language classrooms in over 40 countries. ESL author Hall Houston, in long English Teaching Professional review noted, &#8220;In sum, Compelling Conversations is a recommended resource for teachers who want to make their conversation classes more learner-centered&#8230;It reflects both authors&#8217; considerable professional experience, and would be a notable addition to any English teacher&#8217;s bookshelf. &#8221; Hall Houston, the book reviewer, is also the writer of <a href="http://www.geocities.com/Tokyo/Flats/7947/">The Creative Classroom: Teaching Languages Outside the Box</a>.  </p>
<p>We live in a wonderful time to teach English, and somehow I suspect that Compelling Conversations will soon find an audience in Vietnam. </p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Many English teachers, especially novice ESL instructors, talk more than ideal - and allow their English students to talk too little. Ironically, many ESL instructors make this "good mistake" because they are so dedicated. What, after all, are they supposed to do while students exchange ideas and practice their speaking skills? 
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>What do you do while students are having conversations or talking in pairs? Do you have a &#8220;formula&#8221; for taking notes? Do you focus more on fluency or accuracy? </p>
<p>Many <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a>, especially novice ESL instructors, talk more than ideal &#8211; and allow their English students to talk too little. Ironically, many ESL instructors make this &#8220;good mistake&#8221; because they are so dedicated. What, after all, are they supposed to do while students exchange ideas and practice their <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">speaking skills</a>? </p>
<p>When I taught an advanced ESL conversation class to immigrants and international students from many different countries at Santa Monica Community College, I developed a little routine. </p>
<p>First, I introduced conversation topics with a quotation or proverb and briefly introduce the day&#8217;s topic. Then I distribute worksheets (which became chapters in Compelling Conversations) with 30 or so questions, 10 or 12 key vocabulary words, and a few selected quotations or proverbs. Then students would  be paired up to interview each other and share experiences for 20-30 minutes. </p>
<p>What did I do? I simply circled around the room, briefly joining in conversations, taking notes, and indirectly correcting students by modeling a better way to ask or respond to questions. I also jotted down key comments and &#8220;good mistakes&#8221; &#8211; both grammar and pronunciation &#8211; that I would later share with the entire class. Further, I focused on the content of student comments so fluency and meaning was more important than accuracy. Ideas and perceptions mattered more than perfect grammar. </p>
<p>These notes, however, helped me guide the classroom discussion because it closely echoed their previous conversations. It also lead to dynamic discussions because several perspectives were acknowledged and considered. </p>
<p>Taking notes also gave me a chance to emphasize certain sound groups or related word forms. While the students were talking to each other, I was playing reporter and taking notes. </p>
<p>Here is a reproducible worksheet that captures that process of monitoring conversations and leading discussions. Use or lose. </p>
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Compelling Conversation Classroom Worksheet for Teachers</p>
<p>Topic:					Pages:				Date:<br />
# of participants:			# of groups:			Room:</p>
<p>Opening Quote:</p>
<p>Opening comments to class:</p>
<p>Starting time for conversations:</p>
<p>Conversation content:<br />
	- What did you hear the students say? Summarize. </p>
<p>Follow-up class discussion questions: </p>
<p>Review Vocabulary: </p>
<p>Pronunciation tips:</p>
<p>Grammar issues: </p>
<p>Other comments/observations:  </p>
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		<description><![CDATA[How can English teachers encourage adult and university students to expand their language skills and improve their employment opportunities in a difficult economic climate? Personally, I&#8217;ve slightly modified my oral skills course this semester to provide greater emphasis on interviewing skills. Students interviewed each other for 10-15 minute videotaped mock job interviews for their first [...]
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>How can <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a> encourage adult and university students to expand their language skills and improve their employment opportunities in a difficult economic climate?</p>
<p>Personally, I&#8217;ve slightly modified my oral skills course this semester to provide greater emphasis on interviewing skills. Students interviewed each other for 10-15 minute videotaped mock job interviews for their first assignment.</p>
<p>The use of videotaping students in class has gained far more acceptance in the last few years, partly due to the technological advances. OTAN, the adult education website established by the California Department of Education, even created an entire section devoted to using videotapes and videocameras in the adult ESL classes.</p>
<p>Another factor has been the increasing popularity of YouTube videoclips by students seeking practical information. I&#8217;ve combined those two trends by requiring students to find and review YouTube clips on vital employment skills and <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">speaking skills</a>. Students found and reviewed videoclips, and emailed them in as homework. Afterwards, I combined all the student evaluations into a single email that I sent to the entire class with a few editorial comments and minor editing.</p>
<p>Here is the homework sheet for that assignment. As with the reviews, &#8220;use or lose.&#8221;			</p>
<p>Getting Job Interview Advice from YouTube!  </p>
<p>Student Name:<br />
Class:<br />
Teacher:<br />
School:<br />
Date:</p>
<p>Please find an YouTube videoclip that helps people successfully interview for jobs – in English &#8211; that you would like to share with your classmates. Watch the video, take notes, and review it for your classmates.</p>
<p>Video title:<br />
Web address:<br />
Length:<br />
Creator:						 </p>
<p>Please describe the video.  </p>
<p>What interview tips did the video provide?  </p>
<p>Where do you think the video was produced? Why? </p>
<p>How practical did you find the advice? Why? </p>
<p>What was the strongest part? Why?</p>
<p>What was the weakest part? Why?</p>
<p>Who do think is the target audience for this video?</p>
<p>Why did you choose this video?</p>
<p>How would you rate this video 1-5 stars? Why?<br />
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<p>This simple worksheet combines research, critical thinking, and language skills. As <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a>, we can use simple technology to help <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English language learners</a> develop their language skills, especially when they are motivated to learn and search out new sources. Instead of dismissing YouTube searching as a waste of time, let&#8217;s turn their interests into productive learning opportunities and share insights. After all, employment interviews often serve as a real-world language tests for our ESL students.</p>
<p>Let&#8217;s make sure we give them the tools to pass those crucial tests.</p>
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2. Do (did) you have a checklist of qualities for a potential spouse?
3. What are the three main qualifications on your checklist? Partner?
Provider? Lover? Friend?
4. When did you fall in love? Did one person fall first? Who?
5. How did you know your lover was the one? How did your thinking
evolve?
6. Did you ever have moments of doubt? How did your thinking evolve?
7. Do you think people should live together before they get married?
Why? Can you share some examples?

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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Are you romantically involved? Do you match your partner? How do you know? Who will you choose to share your life with? Are you considering marriage? Are you already married? Use these questions as a springboard to reflect on your options, choices, and desires on this Valentine&#8217;s Day. </p>
<p>Here is chapter #33 from Compelling Conversations that many friends have told me is better for native speakers than <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English language learners</a> or ESL classrooms. Perhaps they are right. On the other hand, I&#8217;ve had great conversations in my adult ESL and college ESL classes using this chapter too.</p>
<p>As both a happily married man of 14 years and the child of divorced parents, these  questions seem like smart questions to ask &#8211; even for romantics on Valentine&#8217;s Day. Perhaps especially on Valentine&#8217;s Day when the official propaganda of &#8220;love will conquer all&#8221; seems so pervasive. So whether <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a> ask themselves, their partner, or their students these questions, I&#8217;d like to share this list on my blog tonight.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m also including a short videoclip from Discovery News that I found quite interesting on the origins of kissing and how that satisfying activity is believed to have spread around the globe. Enjoy! </p>
<p><a href='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e4gcT7f-4lY' >The Skinny on Smooching from Discovery News</a></p>
<p>1. Why do (did) you want to get married?<br />
2. Do (did) you have a checklist of qualities for a potential spouse?<br />
3. What are the three main qualifications on your checklist? Partner?<br />
Provider? Lover? Friend?<br />
4. When did you fall in love? Did one person fall first? Who?<br />
5. How did you know your lover was the one? How did your thinking<br />
evolve?<br />
6. Did you ever have moments of doubt? How did your thinking evolve?<br />
7. Do you think people should live together before they get married?<br />
Why? Can you share some examples?<br />
8. Are sex, love and marriage linked in your mind, or is each separate?<br />
How are they different?<br />
9. What are some endearing qualities of your companion?<br />
10. Do you like your partner’s friends? Do you respect them? Why?<br />
11. What advice have your parents and close friends given you? Your<br />
extended family? How important is their opinion in your decision? Why?<br />
12. Do you think you are marrying only an individual or are you also<br />
marrying your spouse’s family? How would you describe your<br />
potential in-laws?<br />
13. What does your partner do that annoys you?<br />
14. Do you expect to be the pilot, co-pilot, or passenger in the<br />
marriage? Why?<br />
15. What, if anything, would definitely cause you to divorce? Why?</p>
<p>Q U E S T I O N S A N D Q U OTAT I O N S O N T I M E L E S S TO P I C S • 1 0 5<br />
V O C A B U L A R Y<br />
Review these words and expressions. Circle the words that you know.<br />
potential &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
neat freak &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;..<br />
spouse &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;..<br />
nupital &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
conflicts &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;..<br />
checklist &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;..<br />
resolve &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
pre-nuptial &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;<br />
compatible &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;<br />
pack rat &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;..<br />
justify &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;<br />
evolve &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;..</p>
<p>P R O V E R B S<br />
What do these proverbs mean? Can you share some other proverbs?<br />
The needle is always accompanied by the thread.—Korean<br />
Strange is the affinity that binds two in marriage.—Japanese<br />
Whoever marries only for beauty will live in misery.—Russian</p>
<p>T H E C O N V E R S A T I O N C O N T I N U E S …<br />
1. Thinking about personal preferences, do you like to stay up late or<br />
get up early? Do you have compatible sleeping habits?<br />
2. Do you have similar media habits? What about tastes in TV shows<br />
and movies?<br />
3. Where do you prefer to live? Country? City? Farm? Apartment?<br />
House?<br />
4. Are you a pack rat? Are you a neat freak? Are your styles<br />
compatible?<br />
5. Will you still love your partner when he or she is 64? Will your<br />
partner love you with wrinkles?<br />
6. Do you know an older couple that might be a model for a good<br />
partnership? Who are they?<br />
7. What activities do you enjoy in your leisure time? Will your spouse<br />
join you?<br />
8. Do you and your lover share spending philosophies? Do you shop<br />
together?<br />
9. Do you expect to live with older generations? Who? Why? Where?<br />
When?<br />
10. What is your approach to settling conflicts? How often do you have<br />
conflicts?<br />
11. Do you want children? How many?<br />
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<p>12. Do you believe in birth control? Why?<br />
13. How do you think your baby would look like? Why?<br />
14. What kind of parent do you expect your spouse to become? Why?<br />
15. Would you want your sons to be like the man you’re marrying?<br />
Would you want your daughters to be like the woman you’re<br />
marrying?<br />
16. Do you expect to follow family or religious traditions? Which ones?<br />
Why?<br />
17. If disagreements arise about children, how do you expect to<br />
resolve them?<br />
18. Do you think all money should be shared or should each spouse<br />
have separate bank accounts? Why? How do you expect to<br />
manage household expenses?<br />
19. What were the best gifts that you’ve given or received in the<br />
relationship?<br />
20. What passions do you share? What unites you as a couple?<br />
21. Do you have a favorite photograph of you as a couple? Can you<br />
describe it?<br />
22. Where do you want to travel together? What do you want to see<br />
together?<br />
23. What are you looking forward to doing together as a married<br />
couple?<br />
24. How do you expect your life to change once you are married?<br />
What are some advantages of being married?<br />
25. Do you have any tips or suggestions on how to create and preserve<br />
a happy marriage?</p>
<p>Q U O T A T I O N S<br />
Which two quotations come closest to your attitudes?<br />
1. “By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you’ll become happy;<br />
if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”<br />
—Socrates (470-339 BC), Greek philosopher<br />
2. “Man’s best possession is a sympathetic wife.”<br />
—Euripides (480-406 BC), playwright<br />
3. “I’m so gullible. I’m so damn gullible. And I am so sick of being<br />
gullible.”<br />
—Lana Turner (1921-1995), Hollywood star married seven times<br />
4. “Love is the ideal thing, marriage a real thing; a confusion of the<br />
real with the ideal never goes unpunished.”<br />
—Goethe (1749-1832), German poet, novelist, and scientist<br />
5. “Marriage is a great institution, but I’m not ready for an<br />
institution.”<br />
—Mae West (1892-1980), American actress<br />
7. “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”<br />
—Ali McGraw in Love Story (1970)</p>
<p>“Love is the ideal thing, marriage a real<br />
thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal<br />
never goes unpunished.”<br />
Goethe (1749-1832),<br />
German poet, novelist, and scientist</p>
<p>Q U E S T I O N S A N D Q U OTAT I O N S O N T I M E L E S S TO P I C S • 1 0 7</p>
<p>8. “Marriage: A word that should be pronounced ‘mirage.’”<br />
—Herbert Spencer (1820-1903), English philosopher<br />
9. “No matter who you get married to, you wake up married to<br />
somebody else.”<br />
—Marlon Brando in Guys and Dolls (1955)<br />
10. “Second marriage: the triumph of hope over experience.”<br />
—Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784), English writer<br />
11. “Marriage is a very good thing, but I think it’s a mistake to make a<br />
habit of it.”<br />
—W. Somerset Maugham (1874-1965), English novelist<br />
12. “A happy marriage is a long conversation that always seems too<br />
short.”<br />
—Andre Maurois (1885-1967), French author<br />
13. “A successful marriage is not a gift; it is an achievement.”<br />
—Ann Landers (1918-2002), American advice columnist<br />
★<br />
O N Y O U R O W N<br />
With your class partner, list three celebrity marriages that have ended in divorce. For each couple who divorced, list two reasons you think their marriage did not last.<br />
Then, list three marriages of well known people that have lasted<br />
more than 20 years. For each couple, list two reasons why you<br />
think their marriage lasted. Share  with the class.<br />
1. &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;<br />
• . &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
• . &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
2. &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
• . &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
• . &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
3. &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
• . &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
• . &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
1. &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;<br />
• . &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
• . &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
2. &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
• . &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
• . &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
3. &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
• . &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
• . &#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<br />
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		<description><![CDATA[If English students can accurately paraphrase a reading, a radio segment, or a verbal statement, they can actively participate in common conversations and classroom discussions. Many English teachers underestimate the importance of this skill, and assume students understand more than they might. Verbal paraphrasing activities allow both students and teachers to assess a listening comprehension in a natural, authentic manner.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Paraphrasing matters in conversation too! </p>
<p>Experienced <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a> know that students must learn paraphrasing skills for academic writing assignments. Likewise paraphrasing remains a vital skill for <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English language learners</a> to participate in academic classrooms, everyday conversations, social situations, and commercial transactions.</p>
<p>The ability to re-phrase and re-state, usually called paraphrasing, allows English students to confirm information, accurately convey information, and avoid plagiarism problems in writing papers. As a result, paraphrasing is  usually emphasized in English as a Second Language (ESL)  and English as a Foreign Language (EFL) writing classes. Classes and teachers focusing on oral skills from academic presentations to simple conversations should also devote some attention to paraphrasing too.</p>
<p>English language students, whether university or adult and young or old, must learn to confirm information by asking clarification questions. This critical skill will increase their ability to collect information, avoid costly mistakes, and reduce their everyday stress level. Some useful phrases for a listener to ask include:<br />
<strong><br />
Are you saying…?<br />
Do you mean?<br />
What are you getting at?<br />
If I understand you correctly, you are saying …<br />
So you are saying… Right?<br />
Did I get that right? </strong></p>
<p>Speakers can also check to see if their group members and classmates understand their directions.</p>
<p><strong>Are you with me?<br />
Can you understand me?<br />
Was I going too fast?<br />
Should I rephrase that?<br />
Do you follow?<br />
Is that clear?<br />
Should I repeat the directions?<br />
Do you want me to repeat that?<br />
Would it be better for me to repeat that?<br />
Can I answer any questions?<br />
Is anybody lost?<br />
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<p>Asking advanced English students to repeat directions, in different words, can also be an effective group activity. The directions can be to a physical location (home, campus building, museum) or how to do something simple like  finding a definition or sending an email. You can also extend the assignment by requesting detailed directions on a complicated procedure such as getting a driver&#8217;s license, applying for a visa, or choosing a new laptop.  </p>
<p>Further, you can ask students to share an autobiographical story. Student A tells a story, and Student B retells that story with different words to Student C. This paraphrasing exercise also helps build a larger, more practical vocabulary.</p>
<p>Another teaching technique that I’ve found useful is asking students to paraphrase proverbs and quotations. This exercise, done in groups of two, is often followed by asking if students agree or disagree with the proverb or quotation. Of course, students have to give a reason and/or an example. ESL tutors and lucky <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a> with small classes can elaborate this technique to match student interests.</p>
<p>If English students can accurately paraphrase a reading, a radio segment, or a verbal statement, they can actively participate in common conversations and classroom discussions. Many <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a> underestimate the importance of this skill, and assume students understand more than they might. Verbal paraphrasing activities allow both students and teachers to assess listening comprehension skills in a natural, authentic manner.</p>
<p>Therefore, verbal paraphrasing deserves more attention in speaking activities &#8211; especially in high intermediate and advanced levels! Don&#8217;t you agree? </p>
<p>What techniques or exercises do you use to improve paraphrasing skills? </p>
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