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		<title>Ask Your English Students to Review TED.Com videos &#8211; and Create Compelling Conversations</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Jun 2011 01:58:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Eric</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[How can you encourage your advanced ESL students to develop their speaking skills and tap their interest in our rapidly changing world? Create compelling classroom assignments that respect their intelligence, engage their curiosity, and model great speaking skills. Let your students be hunters, gathers, and presenters of new information to their classmates! Adding a homework [...]
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>How can you encourage your advanced ESL students to develop their <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">speaking skills</a> and tap their interest in our rapidly changing world? Create compelling classroom assignments that respect their intelligence, engage their curiosity, and model great <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">speaking skills</a>. Let your students be hunters, gathers, and presenters of new information to their classmates!</p>
<p>Adding a homework assignment that requires ESL students to go the &#8220;ideas worth sharing&#8221; website at <a title="TED " href="http://ted.com">www.TED.com</a> accomplishes all these goals. For the last four years, I have asked both college and international graduate students to select a short <a title="TED.com" href="http://www.ted.com">TED.com </a>video, watch it, and prepare to share their impressions in class.  Since many students have evolving English language skills and the course is an advanced oral skills class,  they just take notes. What&#8217;s the title? Where was the lecture given? Who gave the lecture? Date? How did they open the presentation? Was their a significant quote? What sources were orally cited? How would they rate the video on a scale of 1-5? Why did they choose this <a title="TED" href="http://www.TED.com">TED </a>video? Why do they recommend we watch it too?</p>
<p>Students will often watch several<a title="TED" href="http://www.ted.com"> TED </a>videos before choosing a favorite one. This advanced ESL homework assignment seems to capture their imagination as they explore the <a title="TED" href="http://www.TED.com" target="_blank">TED</a> website. The next day, students discuss the TED video that they selected in small groups of four. Afterwards, I ask for &#8220;brave volunteers&#8221; to share their impressions &#8211; i.e., review &#8211; with the class. Usually everyone wants to present so we extend the lesson to a second class where I videotape all the presentations. The class sessions are always illuminating, engaging, and surprising as I learn more about students, their interests, our evolving world, and their English language <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">speaking skills</a>.  This democratic <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">speaking skills</a> activity creates an atmosphere where &#8220;everybody is a student,  and everybody is a teacher.&#8221;  Result: the entire class creates compelling classroom conversations!</p>
<p>As the old American cereal commercial used to say, &#8220;try it &#8211; you&#8217;ll like it&#8221; &#8211; at least with more advanced English students!</p>
<p>For ESL teachers who want a more formal assignment, you can also use this <a title="this more detailed worksheet" href="http://www.compellingconversations.com/worksheets/ted-video-summary-and-commentary.pdf">more detailed worksheet. </a></p>
<p><a title="TED worksheet #2" href="http://www.compellingconversations.com/worksheets/ted-video-summary-and-commentary.pdf">http://www.compellingconversations.com/worksheets/ted-video-summary-and-commentary.pdf</a></p>
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		<title>Fluency Requires Practice</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Feb 2011 07:05:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Eric Roth</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;To know and not do is to not know.&#8221; The Talmud Fluency requires practice. Our students also know that speaking English can be both satisfying and stressful. Therefore, we require speaking activities in class &#8211; and strongly suggest ways to speak more out of class. Our students want to be fluent, but they often hesitate [...]
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;To know and not do is to not know.&#8221; The Talmud</p>
<p>Fluency requires practice. Our students also know that speaking English can be both satisfying and stressful. Therefore, we require speaking activities in class &#8211; and strongly suggest ways to speak more out of class. Our students want to be fluent, but they often hesitate to practice their <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">speaking skills</a>. Many students do not want to risk making mistakes, being misunderstood, and feeling awkward. Some prefer to silently take notes, and speak as little as possible in their English classes. We have all probably faced this situation. </p>
<p>Yet, as far as I know, there is no magical shortcut to fluency except practice. Our English students must practice speaking &#8211; in pairs and in small groups &#8211; even if it feels awkward. &#8220;Practice makes perfect&#8221; goes a popular proverb. Although perfection seems like a dubious ideal, practice certainly makes progress. And our students want to make meaningful progress in their <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">speaking skills</a> and gain greater fluency. </p>
<p>That&#8217;s why creating a comfortable class atmosphere remains essential. One effective way to reduce grade anxiety or classroom stress is to clearly emphasize that some activities will focus more on fluency&#8221; and other speaking activities will focus more on &#8220;accuracy&#8221;. For instance, including one casual fluency activity per class helps students simply exchange ideas and engage in low risk, safe communication between themselves. </p>
<p>Speaking exercises can be added across the ESL curriculum. You can often drop a short communicative exercise even in acadenuc writing classes. Fluency, after all, requires practice. Casual, ungraded classroom conversations also increase student confidence and create a more lively ESL classroom.  </p>
<p>Asking students to reflect and share their experiences as an English learner can often lead to fascinating conversations and compelling essays. Here&#8217;s a favorite fluency activity called <a href="http://www.compellingconversations.com/pdf/studying_english.pdf">Learning English</a> that I&#8217;ve used with both intermediate and advanced ESL students in both oral skills and writing classes. When I taught advanced ESL at Santa Monica Community College, I often used <a href="http://www.compellingconversations.com/pdf/studying_english.pdf">Learning English</a> to introduce their first essay. Students often responded with enthusiasm. Perhaps your English students will too. </p>
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		<title>Conversation Tip #9: Ask Clarifying Questions!</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Sep 2010 06:28:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Eric Roth</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[What is a clarifying question? What do you mean? Can you be more specific? Can you give us some examples? What do you exactly mean? Sometimes our English students need help asking questions, especially critical questions that allow them to clarify concepts and better participate in conversations. One crucial skill that needs to be explicitly [...]
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>What is a clarifying question? What do you mean? Can you be more specific? Can you give us some examples? What do you exactly mean? </p>
<p>Sometimes our English students need help asking questions, especially critical questions that allow them to clarify concepts and better participate in conversations. One crucial skill that needs to be explicitly taught &#8211; after being informally modeled in class discussions &#8211; is asking for clarification. In fact, I consider the ability to ask appropriate follow-up questions a vital life skill. </p>
<p>Here are some simple questions that students can, and often should, ask to collect more information. I often encourage students to make a general statement or bold claim, and support their opinion with some reason.  Proverbs and advertising slogans are great for this purpose. </p>
<p>Sunshine promises happiness.<br />
Just do it.<br />
Laugh and be well.<br />
Bad luck can&#8217;t last forever.<br />
You create your own luck.<br />
Be bold. </p>
<p>Yet these absolute statements require qualification and clarification, especially in the context of an academic discussion or intense conversation. Therefore, it&#8217;s natural to ask some practical clarifying questions in a friendly, open-minded way. </p>
<p>Here are some useful examples of common clarification questions:<br />
What does that mean?<br />
Can you be more specific?<br />
Why do you think that?<br />
How did you reach that conclusion?<br />
Can you share some examples?<br />
To what extent, does that saying apply here?<br />
What do you really mean?<br />
Can you clarify that for me?<br />
How does that statement apply to&#8230;.?<br />
Can you spin that concept out for us?<br />
What are the implications of that statement?<br />
What are you implying? </p>
<p>We can also ask questions to confirm information or paraphrase.<br />
Are you saying that&#8230;.<br />
Are you claiming&#8230;.<br />
Do you mean &#8230;.<br />
So you are saying&#8230;<br />
Do you want me to&#8230;</p>
<p>This simple exercise is also quite helpful when teaching hedging language and formal definitions to add precision.  Since I primary teach graduate students who must participate in classroom discussions and answer questions after giving presentations, I consider this ability a vital skill for intermediate and advanced <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English language learners</a>. </p>
<p>How do you clarify information? What questions do you ask as follow-up questions when you feel confused? What questions do you teach your students to use to collect more details or verify information? Why? </p>
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		<title>Paraphrasing is an Essential Conversation Skill!</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[If English students can accurately paraphrase a reading, a radio segment, or a verbal statement, they can actively participate in common conversations and classroom discussions. Many English teachers underestimate the importance of this skill, and assume students understand more than they might. Verbal paraphrasing activities allow both students and teachers to assess a listening comprehension in a natural, authentic manner.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Paraphrasing matters in conversation too! </p>
<p>Experienced <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a> know that students must learn paraphrasing skills for academic writing assignments. Likewise paraphrasing remains a vital skill for <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English language learners</a> to participate in academic classrooms, everyday conversations, social situations, and commercial transactions.</p>
<p>The ability to re-phrase and re-state, usually called paraphrasing, allows English students to confirm information, accurately convey information, and avoid plagiarism problems in writing papers. As a result, paraphrasing is  usually emphasized in English as a Second Language (ESL)  and English as a Foreign Language (EFL) writing classes. Classes and teachers focusing on oral skills from academic presentations to simple conversations should also devote some attention to paraphrasing too.</p>
<p>English language students, whether university or adult and young or old, must learn to confirm information by asking clarification questions. This critical skill will increase their ability to collect information, avoid costly mistakes, and reduce their everyday stress level. Some useful phrases for a listener to ask include:<br />
<strong><br />
Are you saying…?<br />
Do you mean?<br />
What are you getting at?<br />
If I understand you correctly, you are saying …<br />
So you are saying… Right?<br />
Did I get that right? </strong></p>
<p>Speakers can also check to see if their group members and classmates understand their directions.</p>
<p><strong>Are you with me?<br />
Can you understand me?<br />
Was I going too fast?<br />
Should I rephrase that?<br />
Do you follow?<br />
Is that clear?<br />
Should I repeat the directions?<br />
Do you want me to repeat that?<br />
Would it be better for me to repeat that?<br />
Can I answer any questions?<br />
Is anybody lost?<br />
</strong></p>
<p>Asking advanced English students to repeat directions, in different words, can also be an effective group activity. The directions can be to a physical location (home, campus building, museum) or how to do something simple like  finding a definition or sending an email. You can also extend the assignment by requesting detailed directions on a complicated procedure such as getting a driver&#8217;s license, applying for a visa, or choosing a new laptop.  </p>
<p>Further, you can ask students to share an autobiographical story. Student A tells a story, and Student B retells that story with different words to Student C. This paraphrasing exercise also helps build a larger, more practical vocabulary.</p>
<p>Another teaching technique that I’ve found useful is asking students to paraphrase proverbs and quotations. This exercise, done in groups of two, is often followed by asking if students agree or disagree with the proverb or quotation. Of course, students have to give a reason and/or an example. ESL tutors and lucky <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a> with small classes can elaborate this technique to match student interests.</p>
<p>If English students can accurately paraphrase a reading, a radio segment, or a verbal statement, they can actively participate in common conversations and classroom discussions. Many <a href="http://compellingconversations.com/blog/2011/06/05/english-teachers-confront-billion-person-question/">English teachers</a> underestimate the importance of this skill, and assume students understand more than they might. Verbal paraphrasing activities allow both students and teachers to assess listening comprehension skills in a natural, authentic manner.</p>
<p>Therefore, verbal paraphrasing deserves more attention in speaking activities &#8211; especially in high intermediate and advanced levels! Don&#8217;t you agree? </p>
<p>What techniques or exercises do you use to improve paraphrasing skills? </p>
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		<title>Conversation tip #15: Seek to Understand</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 24 Aug 2008 05:58:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Eric Roth</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Seek to Understand Have you ever seen two emotional people talk past each other? Both talk and neither listen. Both want to tell the other, and don’t want to hear – or understand – what the other person is saying. This happens too often in stressful workplaces. Stephen Covey, author of the international bestseller called [...]
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana; color: black;">Have you ever seen two emotional people talk past each other? Both talk and neither listen. Both want to tell the other, and don’t want to hear – or understand – what the other person is saying. This happens too often in stressful workplaces. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana; color: black;">Stephen Covey, author of the international bestseller called “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, advises people “to seek first to understand, then to be understood.” <span> </span>Following this traditional wisdom can improve workplace relationships and communication.</p>
<p>What are some techniques that can help understand other people? Here are some tips: </span></p>
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<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: black; margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana;">Listen first and avoid      interrupting.</span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: black; margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana;">Pause before speaking.</span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: black; margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana;">Look people in the eye. </span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: black; margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana;">Be curious. </span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: black; margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana;">Ask “what” and “how”      questions to get more information. </span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: black; margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana;">Keep the voice down. Stay      calm. Talk slow. </span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: black; margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana;">Repeat or rephrase what      people say to avoid misunderstandings. </span></li>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana; color: black;">What are some other tips to avoid misunderstandings or conflicts at work? </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana; color: black;">1.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana; color: black;">2.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana; color: black;">3.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana; color: black;">4. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana; color: black;">What are some advantages of staying calm at work? </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana; color: black;">1.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Verdana; color: black;">2.</span></p>
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